Communication can make or break a relationship. If you're in a place where your relationship is hanging by a thread, communication can probably save it. Communication goes beyond discussing routine superficial topics and helps people connect at a deep emotional level. If you constantly feel like your partner doesn't get what you're saying or that you don't understand him/her, then it probably means that you need to have a second look at how well you're communicating.
Why You Need to Stop Arguing and Start Listening
Many a times, discussions escalate to arguments in relationships. It is natural to want to get your point across during a debate, but it is equally important to listen to what the other person is saying. If both sides continue arguing with a narrow-minded approach, it is as good as nothing being said. The next time you're in the middle of an argument, stop and give sometime to listen to what they're saying. Your partner will note the difference and probably follow your lead.
Opening up can make us feel vulnerable at times. While this vulnerability scares us due to the possibility of getting hurt, it can also blossom into a beautiful relationship. Sharing your deepest feelings and thoughts with your partner is crucial if you're looking at building trust. Also, lying is a big no-no in a relationship. Even harmless white lies can create trouble, so avoid them as well. Unabashed honesty will make your partner trust you more.
Non-verbal signals are huge clues to how the person sitting across you is feeling, so pay attention to them.
If the person constantly looks away it could mean that they are not interested in talking to you. Folded arms indicate that they feel defensive towards you. If they don't make eye contact it could mean that they're disinterested or that they're lying or are ashamed. A louder tone could mean that they feel strongly about something.
Talking to someone who has the attention span of a ferret can be frustrating. Don't let your mind wander while your partner is speaking to you. While discussing issues is a good thing, many times arguments can get out of control. It gets personal and turns into a blame game. The key is to stay on track and make it a constructive conversation.